I walk slowly, but I never walk backward

Every decision we make and every step we take portrays a big role in our life, in fact, has consequences or "after-effect" towards the person making the decision as well as the others involved. These consequences might be immediate or long-lasting. It can be positive, negative or a combination of both. Therefore, we shouldn't be impulsive in decision-making because the future is inevitable and we're not able to redo what has been done already. 

What I'm trying to imply is that, like the popular saying, "Think before you speak," also applies in making decisions. We have to think a thousand times before settling a move, and above all, never decide on a whim. Don't let your sudden, impulsive urge control your system without carefully planning because of a capricious inclination.

To explain further and make it clear, I'm going to first tell you a story. When I was on 8th grade, I took an MBTI test, if don't you know what is that, it's an online evaluation that identifies your personality. And unfortunately I already forgot the result I've got so I retook the test. It took me a while to be honest, since I've paid full attention on my answers and took into consideration my real character and identity in which I failed doing when I was younger. I can say that I was more honest with this one and the result satisfied me for real.

I am, by the way, a Protagonist ENFJ-T which stands for Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling and Judging. Like the INFJ personality type, the ENFJ is among the rarest of the sixteen types, comprising only about 2-3% of the population. "ENFJs have definite values and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. ENFJ is in many ways expressive and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. The ENFJ is warm, engaging, charismatic, persuasive, and talkative," revealed by Personality page.

Anyway, enough with unnecessary trivia. One item on the exam made me realize a thing. Although, I am really sensitive--in different ways--such as being quick and delicate to appreciate others' feelings, empathetic to be exact, gets easily upset and cries even in the smallest source of sorrow, I rarely dwell on my failures.

I am slow when it comes to making a decision, I think about the options and turn them over my mind a million times, play out possible scenarios... but that doesn't mean that everything will turn out well, according to my desires and what I've expected. It failed? Just go with your heart, stop fretting about the past and keep moving forward even if it is small steps. Because these small steps help in gaining momentum over a period.

In time, things will go well. Maybe they turned out poorly, but what's important are the things they brought--the experience you earned, the memories you obtained, and the lessons you gained that will help you carry on. You are fortunate to have the courage because indecision steals many years from people who wind up wishing they'd just had the courage to leap. It's okay to walk slowly as long as your moving. You'll get into your destination, someday.

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The Trend #CancelKorea: My Introspection

It has been a while since I last posted a blog. I am bothered by the current issue that is going around on Twitter, Facebook, and Tiktok so I want to share my thoughts about the matter here.

Yes, the title says it all. You might have heard about that as well, haven't you? Let's hop straight to the point.

First and foremost, I am a fan of South Korea's music, but let us exclude that stratification for I am going to speak out my stand and how I regard this in different angles. 

As a Filipino citizen, I am of course vexed with the insulting and offensive words that was thrown by that Korean to our country. The way they categorized the word "Filipinos" as slave, uneducated people, and poor. I remember the issue wherein the MC of a variety show in South Korea tells how he was mocked by his fellow Koreans because of his skin color that wasn't qualified with the Korean beauty standards, they labeled him as "Filipino" to condemn his dark skin color. 

I once dreamed of bringing my family in South Korea and live there permanently when I was still young and naive. However, when I started getting fond of watching "My honest opinion about..." contents in YouTube, that particular dream of mine has come to an end. I've heard different people's weeps and complains from different race and ethnicity who lived in South Korea. There were positive feedback, but besides that, there were negative ones. They were treated differently, no matter how fluent they are in Korean, no matter how outgoing and friendly they are, they are refused to be given equal rights.

Despite of my adoration and attachment with K-Pop Music, I openly share my fair judgment in South Korea's culture to my mother and to my friends (JLPF gang). They know everything. Nevertheless, I am not here to enumerate those one by one, rather, I am here to point out how pretentious Filipinos has become because of this matter. It's nothing but hypocrisy.

We are insulted because they're standardized Filipinos as poor, slave, and uneducated people. What's the difference? Filipinos did the same--mocked their surgical beauties, small eyes, legs, and how they cannot speak English well. Almost all of the Asians are racist, so as we. We are even making fun and ridiculing our fellow Filipinos. 

It got way out of hand. People should know the definition of racism. Koreans and Filipinos belong to one race--the Asian race. How can they be racist against each other? Discrimination is a better term--to be specific--ethnic discrimination (ethnocentrism).

Real talk. Most of Filipinos who lives overseas know how little they see Filipinos, non-Koreans or from 3rd world countries, an example of what I've mentioned earlier, those non-Koreans who lives in Korea are not treated fairly. That is a fact. I am not generalizing Koreans but that's how they see and treat them compared to other expats, especially those whites or from Western countries. That stems from ignorance and misplaced arrogance.

They just gave voice with what they perceive and how they see us, Filipinos. 'Cause in reality is, not everyone will like us and see us in a positive light--the same goes with what we do to Koreans. But unlike them, they do not need to trend the #CancelKorea hashtag because they do not fancy us like how we fancy them. 

I see the justifications of Filipinos are exaggerated, too. And the way some Koreans may have reacted and thrown insults which are not related to the main topic--Rising Sun Tattoo--is also stupid and out of the line. Call out on the ignorance, but why do they have to pinpoint the poverty and how short Filipinos are as if poor and short Koreans don't exist? Smh.

People just got to stop arguing and debating with emotions as tools, but instead, use data, educate if possible, or recognize what topic people should read on to get educated about. Just because some bad Filipinos or Koreans act like kids, it doesn't mean the particular country people are crappy as a whole. It is wrong to generalize an entire nation for some bad seeds out there. 

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